It's true that 'Lajja' enhances the beauty of a woman but it has nothing to do with her protection.
A woman can guard herself by her Intellect and presence of mind which includes her education, upbringing and her awareness.
Above all, A woman doesn't need any sort of 'Alankaran' to feel good. Since ages, women are fooled and pampered by men . A man emotionally blackmails a woman by his fake praises and a woman in return submits herself to the man . She rarely uses her intellect in judging his intentions. Her so called 'Lajja' becomes her enemy. Only her wisdom can save her to fight the flood of emotions induced by a person.
An aware and wise lady possess the biggest virtue of wisdom which guards her everywhere in all situations. She doesn't require any 'alankaran' as kawach to survive.
A woman must know her place. She must earn education, knowledge and awareness. She should feel proud of herself. She must admire herself. She must be in love by herself.
Once in love with onself we do not need any sort of tags ( alankaran).
Above all Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder. Only a sober, somber and sauve man can induce the feeling of 'lajja' in a woman. Because it requires a very strong man to bring womanhood in a woman.
Usually men want a woman to surrender before them, but this offends a woman. She denies to surrender. But a loving and caring man can make a woman submit herself to him with utmost trust in him. So there is a huge difference in submission and surrender.
I will conclude by saying..."survival of the fittest"।
But who is the fittest one ?
The one who is aware and wise.
So Only wisdom can be anyone's 'Kawach", irrespective of gender.
What's your opinion on this issue ?. Share with me too...will you ?
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truely said , that wisdom is the only kawach which can be torch bearer for survival in any aspect of life. but truely in this male dominated society a wise woman needs to have wisedom as her weapon which can provide her self confidence.
ReplyDeleteSo true Ashish...Thanks.
ReplyDeleteUsually men want a woman to surrender before them, but this offends a woman. She denies to surrender. But a loving and caring man can make a woman submit herself to him with utmost trust in him. So there is a huge difference in submission and surrender.
ReplyDeletefully agree,very well said
Mahak
How is "submitting" better than "surrendering"?
ReplyDeleteInstead of 'submitting' or "surrendering" to each other why can't a man and woman have an "association".
"Association" has some connotations of equality which submission or surrender do not have.
The most durable relationship between and man and woman is one in which there is partnership between the two. Not one where one party dominates the other.
It is not just women who resort to 'alankaran'.
Men also indulge in them.
There are perfumes for men (Brute), after shave lotions etc. Men also go to beauty parlours today. They dye their hair. The desire to look good to the opposite sex is common to both men and women.
I welcome your new blog in English.
I wish you success and good readership.
Regards
G Vishwanath
Dear Mr. Vishwanath,
ReplyDeleteI agree with the beautiful part of your comment, ie- association between the two, that reflects equality as well.
But in the above post a reflection of man's nature [to make a woman surrender] and what appeals to a woman [where she submits herself] is mentioned.
Male ego forces a woman to surrender . But a woman submits herself willingly in front of a loving, affectionate, caring and considerate man.
Hope I am clear in stating my views.
Thanks for your comment.
Mehek ji,
Thanks Sir.
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Very truly said. Wisdom is not only a defense but also an offense mechanism and one of the best tools for the survivor ...
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एक ब्लॉग में अच्छी पोस्ट का मतलब क्या होना चाहिए ?
Several things can be conveyed without comparison.It is the experience which forms the core of beauty and particularly education has nothing to do with beauty or experience.
ReplyDeleteHi Divya thanks for the very good post. I totally agree with you.
ReplyDeleteBut one thing also I want to say that whole problem of the human being is bez they think that they are body not the combination of jeevan and body.And take birth is some purpose for this nature. After right education they can live their life with understanding.
Thanks
Roshani
Hi Roshni , glad to hear your views.
ReplyDeleteWell said Divya. Women by nature are emotional and men take advantage of this weakness. Nature makes theme emotional so that they raise a child with utmost love and care . So many a times wise well qualified, well posted women get deceived by the facade. But some lucky ones find true life partner who treats her with dignity and love.
ReplyDeleteUsually men want a woman to surrender before them, but this offends a woman. She denies to surrender. But a loving and caring man can make a woman submit herself to him with utmost trust in him. So there is a huge difference in submission and surrender.
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Who is the fittest one ?
The one who is aware and wise.
So Only wisdom can be anyone's 'Kawach", irrespective of gender.
Very much asked and discussed questions have again a turning point.
You gave them a stearing to hold there way on.
Not only women , everyone is now unsafe.Insecurity is the main desease.As suggested by you the 'wisdom'can be a healthy remedy.
Very true
ReplyDeleteIt is True that woman has been exploited by man for the centuries and now tide is turning in opposite direction. The wheel of human existence is the greatest judge. The time will come when the man shall get the penalty of his wrong deeds in the past.......
ReplyDeleteat the same time it is also true that modern woman inspite of her higher education and better economic status still becomes victim of man's lust. Woman herself is to be blamed for this....a woman till she is daughter in law/ bahu is exploited by her mother in law but ones she becomes a mother in law she herself becomes an exlploiter. Similary in the case of other social evils like dowry, female infanticide etc woman is equally or sometimes mainly responsible. So woman of modern times has to introspect and explore her true potentials bestowed upon her by the nature.
Thanks for the wonderful comment. I agree that women need to realize their caliber, potential and duties toward women specially. Female foeticide can be easily checked if a woman denies abortion , and dowry lovers can be shown their place if the girls start denying marrying with such greedy lot.
ReplyDeletecan't disagree with you
ReplyDeleteUsually men want a woman to surrender before them, but this offends a woman. She denies to surrender. But a loving and caring man can make a woman submit herself to him with utmost trust in him. So there is a huge difference in submission and surrende
ReplyDeletei agree divya. god bless you.
Yes !! I do agree with you.. some expect of love are on psychological base and many more .thanks
ReplyDeleteNice post. A very justifying heading, "Survival the Fittest". In a few words beautifully described surrender vs submission.
ReplyDelete'SATOPRADHAN' fellow is the fittest one.
ReplyDeleteJyoti Prakash ji,
ReplyDeleteCould you please explain what is 'satopradhan'?
This is a good reflection of your internal feeling.Always await for such type of informative knowledge. Thanks for this post-REALLY UNRIVALLED.
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beautiful dear nice one..........
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