Manners !

A person of wisdom and spirituality has very beautiful manners that have grown from genuine respect and love for the whole of humanity. Manners in this sense have nothing to do with culture or education: it is simply a question of humility. When we are at the receiving end of such manners, we feel that some deeper part of us has been honoured. In fact, none of us deserves anything less.

Power to tolerate !

To tolerate does not mean to die, but to live in everyone's heart with love. No natter how much against you someone is, even if you have to tolerate not once but ten times, nevertheless, the fruit of the power of tolerance is imperishable and sweet.

Self respect !

Self-respect is not a matter of what you are doing in your life, but rather of how you are doing it. It requires that you bring quality and virtue into each action, whatever that action may be.

Thoughts Words and Actions

The gap between what you say and what you do, between what you promise and what you deliver, is like a drain in the road. The drain is where water escapes, just as your power will seep away if there is a difference between your words and your actions. Ask yourself everyday, were your thoughts, words and actions aligned? Ask someone else what they saw in you too. Feedback is the food of all positive change.

Are today's kids turning into couch potatoes ?

Children who watch TV for hours a day or more are less fit and do less in schools. The problem with watching TV is that it is passive . The viewer just sits there for hours without making any physical effort . It doesn't need much mental effort either. All you have to do is to watch the images flickering in front of your eyes and if you get bored, press a button on the remote.

Compare this with reading a book. You have to read the words and think about what they say as the story develops. As you are reading you will be increasing you vocabulary , improving your spelling and developing your thinking skills . On the other hand it could be argued that there are educational programmes on TV. But unfortunately kids do not watch such programs. Instead they zap the remote control and tune into a quiz show, a crime program or a horror film. Worst of all , they at times watch some disgusting programmes that turns them into more violent and hostile . At times they get frightened and withdrawn.

Another problen with TV is that it is a solitary pleasure. This is made worse by the fact that roughly 35 % children have there TV sets in their bedroom , so they are not watching it with the rest of their family. It is no wonder then , that the couch potato generation has trouble making friends and getting on with people .

And it is getting worse . There is computer on which kids are spending too much of time nowadays. This means more exposure to violence , [ shoot-em-up games , fighting games and Alien blasting games and could allow them to link up to the internet which is totally uncensored and could be very dangerous and disturbing for children of this age.

So perhaps it is time for parents and teachers to start laying down a few rules.

• No televisions in bedrooms .
• Not more than one hour viewing per night.
• Spend more time reading.
  
• No TV snacks.
• Homework must be done first.
• No viewing after nine 'o clock.
  
• Take part in a healthy sport.
• Join a club such as scouts or guides. The computer should be used for serious and genuine work only.
  
• No games allowed on computer.
  
• Only parent-approved access to the internet shall be allowed.
  

It is YOU and only YOU !!...Just believe in yourself !

"There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.

" YOU are the only person who can revolutionize your life.

YOU are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success.

YOU are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your company changes.

Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that YOU ARE the only one responsible for your life.

The most important relationship you can have, is the one you have with yourself

" Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses:

be a winner, build yourself and your reality.

The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed. The world and your reality are like mirrors , which show to any individual his divine capability to imagine and create his happiness and his success. It's the way you face Life that makes the difference.

So just believe in yourself !

Survival of the fittest !

It's true that 'Lajja' enhances the beauty of a woman but it has nothing to do with her protection.

A woman can guard herself by her Intellect and presence of mind which includes her education, upbringing and her awareness.

Above all, A woman doesn't need any sort of 'Alankaran' to feel good. Since ages, women are fooled and pampered by men . A man emotionally blackmails a woman by his fake praises and a woman in return submits herself to the man . She rarely uses her intellect in judging his intentions. Her so called 'Lajja' becomes her enemy. Only her wisdom can save her to fight the flood of emotions induced by a person.

An aware and wise lady possess the biggest virtue of wisdom which guards her everywhere in all situations. She doesn't require any 'alankaran' as kawach to survive.

A woman must know her place. She must earn education, knowledge and awareness. She should feel proud of herself. She must admire herself. She must be in love by herself.

Once in love with onself we do not need any sort of tags ( alankaran).

Above all Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder. Only a sober, somber and sauve man can induce the feeling of 'lajja' in a woman. Because it requires a very strong man to bring womanhood in a woman.

Usually men want a woman to surrender before them, but this offends a woman. She denies to surrender. But a loving and caring man can make a woman submit herself to him with utmost trust in him. So there is a huge difference in submission and surrender.

I will conclude by saying..."survival of the fittest"।

But who is the fittest one ?

The one who is aware and wise.

So Only wisdom can be anyone's 'Kawach", irrespective of gender.

What's your opinion on this issue ?. Share with me too...will you ?
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